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Spring Cleaning Your Friend Circle

04/30/2021

By TiAndrea Scriven, SouthLight Lead Counselor, Peer Support

Spring is near and with it comes new beginnings, flowers blooming, rain showers, and of course spring cleaning! But cleaning doesn’t have to stop at dusting and vacuuming.

Your friend circle probably needs a deep clean too.

Having positive people in your life is important, especially with the unprecedented stress of trying to navigate a pandemic along with your mental health.

Having positive people in your life is important, especially with the unprecedented stress of trying to navigate a pandemic along with your mental health. 

Make time to clean out your friend circle and make sure the people close to you only want the best for you. Cutting toxic people out of your life isn’t always easy, but its vital to properly maintaining your mental health.

If you’re not sure where to begin, try reaching out to a friend or counselor, and we can help kick start your cleaning spree. The hardest part of cleaning is always getting started and picking up the broom.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help get you started and determine if the people in your friend group may be toxic.

1) Do they bring out the worse or the best in me?

2) Am I always on edge around them, or do I feel the need to defend and confront them?

3) Do I feel physically and/or emotionally drained after spending time together?

4) Does this friendship feel equal in our efforts or am I putting in most of the effort?

After thinking about these questions and what you want for your friendships, our staff at SouthLight can help you think about the next steps.

If you feel that you have a toxic person in your life, have an open and honest conversation. Not all friendships last forever and that’s okay too. 

Bloom where you are! Southlight can and always will be there to help you through these discussions.

About SouthLight:

Founded in 1970, SouthLight Healthcare is one of the area’s largest nonprofit providers of substance use treatment and mental health services. SouthLight partners with individuals and communities to provide innovative treatment solutions delivered with compassion and dignity. With outpatient and community-based programs, SouthLight provides prevention, education and treatment services in the Triangle and beyond. Call 919-787-6131 for help or more information.